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Victory Osas's avatar

How do I even begin to explain how beautifully articulated this is. I have been stalling & playing with the idea of a poem about the "type of heartbreak that doesn't make sense because the object of your affection was never yours to begin with". This is beautiful and reached my core in so many ways, I will still write that poem & will share with you when I do. Looking forward to reading more.

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Oríadé's avatar

can’t wait to read your poem. thank you for sticking around

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Toluwalope Lawal's avatar

I saw the excerpt on Instagram and I knew I had to read the entire piece! This is so beautiful

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Oríadé's avatar

thank youuuu!!!

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Fayvorhh's avatar

I came from IG too. Such an articulate piece.😩

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Emmanuel, Faith's avatar

Reading this again, can I talk about how beautiful the opening line is?

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OseJennifer's avatar

This is brilliant

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Oríadé's avatar

thank you!

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Aminah Odebode's avatar

OMG, this is so relatableeeeeee

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Oríadé's avatar

❤️❤️❤️

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You Don't Need My Name's avatar

I’ve been asking myself - How do we forgive yourselves for the people who do not become? Then I saw this post that accurately described what I was trying to ask and convey to my people.

Thank you. A wonderful read.

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Oríadé's avatar

forgiving ourselves for a version of ourselves that didn’t come alive

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The Rundown!'s avatar

you write so goodddd.

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Oríadé's avatar

thank you!

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Idongesit Akpan's avatar

Stopeet. I'm currently fantasizing about a job I have not gotten. 🙃

This is a beautiful piece, btw.

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Oríadé's avatar

i hope you get it 😔

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Idongesit Akpan's avatar

I did not get it o, and it hurt. 🤣

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Oluwatosin's avatar

Good morning. Get out of my head. Thank you.

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Oríadé's avatar

😔😔😔

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Oluwaloni Oluwanishola's avatar

Brb going to cry. Currently mourning lol, the crazy thing tho is I haven’t gotten the rejection but I know deep down it was never a possibility it just felt nice to hold on to the beautiful idea of it. Wow! A beautifully written and thought-provoking article👏🏾 well done. This was personal!

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Oríadé's avatar

thank you so much

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Nezzar knowles's avatar

There’s grieving a love you never had, but what about grieving a loved one that died?

Is it that we are not grieving the person per se but the love that has grown between the two of us? or the love that could have developed more better between the two of us?

Not in the clearest state of mind at the moment ‘cause I’m grieving a loved one atm and I’m wondering how it hurts this much, but I hope you do understand my question.

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Rooted in Softness's avatar

In grieving a loved one who passed on, we grieve more than one thing. We grieve what was, and what could have been. It’ll come in phases and fractions, it’ll all hurt deeper than you could ever imagine too.

I’m sorry for your loss and I do hope you find comfort in the moments you’ll need it. Take care.

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Nezzar knowles's avatar

Thank you

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Maureen's avatar

Beautiful write up.

While reading this, I remembered a thought I penned down sometime last year.

“Have you ever mourned in the absence of cause? That your mind would create a puzzle from perfectly structured sentences, spoken to mean no harm but somehow lost in translation through your overly sensitive ears. Why have you chosen to be tormented by thoughts of dread? How difficult is it to let go of the things that cannot be controlled?”

I don’t remember why I wrote it but it probably had something to do with fear.

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Ele Ameh's avatar

Completely and utterly beautiful!

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Temitope's avatar

Beautiful and thought-provoking 👏🏾

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Rooted in Softness's avatar

Hi Ini, it’s always a pleasure to read your words and see where your mind has been lately. This is a very relatable piece too 💜

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