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Thara Ehizogie's avatar

I am currently choosing the hard life by deciding to keep job hunting from lagos and not from the comfort of my circle in Ile-Ife. This is really hard but essential because the constant discomfort from staying at home 24/7 pushes me to develop myself for increased employability possibilities, it also reminds me to keep applying and take chances even when i seem unqualified . I am also becoming less emotionally dependent on my friends. I miss them and the comfort of being able to walk to their hostels when i have a problem but i am learning to sit with my uncomfortable emotions and try to process things myself (sorry this is so long)

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Oríadé's avatar

Hello Thara, first it's okay to drop long comments. I hope you keep up with the hard life and pursuing your goals and pushing yourself.

Also, while it's okay to be independent, it's not wrong with decide on our friends for emotional support. That's why we have friends. ❤️

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Maryjane's avatar

Hi Oriade! Thank you so much for this. Not to sound cliché or anything but this letter was so timely. I was stuck, literally glued to the end, (I even read it a third time). Again, thank you for taking out time to write this. Jensen’s advise? I’ll hold on to it. I’ll choose resilience, I’ll reject my comfort zone. I’ll embrace the pain of retaking this MBBS exams again, I’ll embrace the suffering because if I give in now, I’ll be choosing the easier path. Oof! I can’t wait. Thank you once again!

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Oríadé's avatar

Super happy you found this useful, Maryjane! Rooting for you!

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Kizito Isifeh's avatar

Interesting read. 💜

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Oríadé's avatar

Thank you, Kizito!

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Olúwabùkúnmi's avatar

For me, it's pushing myself out there... applying for talks, presentations... literally closing my eyes to just do it. It's true, you never know what you're capable of or what the future holds unless you try. And that advice from Jensen, 👌🏽

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Oríadé's avatar

Yeah. It's a really solid one from Jensen! I wish you well with all you're doing. ❤️

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Hussaina_xx's avatar

Thank you so much for this letter. I'm currently living the moment by being comfortable and at the same time want to be great. I'm a recent graduate confused about the path I want to take, my friends are learning new skills that are not in line with what we studied and I don't know what exactly to do. I don't know if I should learn a new skill or upskill, anyway, I think I know what to do.

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